Topic: A time when you were a kid and felt a boost in your self-esteem...
Wow, had I realized how difficult this weekend's assignment was, I wouldn't have assigned it. LOL I completely understand if you decide to go off topic this time.
OK, I put a ton of thought into my answer. I've been thinking about it almost everyday trying to come up with a memorable time when kid Melody's self-esteem was boosted. To be honest, I can't really think of one that was 'life changing', but I did realize many things.
One of the reasons I picked this topic was because I am constantly thinking about how I'm going to boost my daughter's esteem in a healthy way. Over my adulthood, I've black listed several ways to lower a kid's esteem. We all learn that as children, don't we? It's a part of life. Along side each item on my black list I have 'cures' to the self-esteem squashers such as: Check to see if she's being bullied at school, don't talk about my weight or how my hair/make up/clothes etc looks horrible, don't compare myself to others, don't put myself down, don't talk bad about others, when she's not 'herself' ask her why...get deep if you have to and find out the reason then do something about it, don't let go when she becomes a teenager...spend even more quality time with her, make sure she has a close, confident relationship with her dad. Oh and give myself a break when I make mistakes. We'll see how that goes.
So, all this deep thinking about my childhood brought me moments when I remember being really happy. Content. Without going into too much detail, I was a rather depressed kid even though most who knew me would say the absolute complete opposite. Things happened that I never shared. I kept a lot inside. Join the club, I know. My self-esteem was shot. BUT, I do remember times when all the 'bad' went away and the smile that was on my face was genuine....
-When the entire family (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) got together and we made memories that would last a life time...before reality of 'family drama' set it.
-When a friend made a card just because they knew you were having a bad day.
-When Dad would take me to get ice cream...only me.
-When my brother would actually LET me play in his room with him. hahaha
Going on to the Jr & Sr high school years was more of a challenge to come up with 'boosters'...
I won many awards, received honors in school, was recognized for a plethora of achievements. Heck, I was even Student Body President of my high school and not one of those moments made my list of times when my esteem was truly boosted. That's not to say that I wasn't excited or proud of myself, but they weren't life changing moments.
I was pretty well known in high school. I practically lived there. I was the queen of school spirit and kids at other schools even knew that about me. I saw it as a job that needed to be done though...making school more enjoyable for others. It wasn't something that I did for myself. It became more of a task that wore me down throughout the four years of high school.
Anyone who knew me back in the day would be very surprised to learn that my biggest self-esteem boosting moment was when I was able to gain the lead role in one of the plays. Now that was a booster. I loved being on stage and NOT being myself. Sounds weird, huh? I mean, if the role I played did something foolish, said something backwards, was too loud, a bit off and kinda corny ... it wasn't Melody.
I've always regretted not pursuing acting more. Being in plays boosted my esteem more than anything during those awkward teenage years. Years after graduating, I ran into my theater teacher. She gave me a rather remarkable complement about my acting skills when she taught me. I still think about that to this day.
Maybe that's why I regretted not pursuing it more...because I was most comfortable on stage and I received, what I believed to be, a genuine complement from a locally well known theater teacher. Still boosts me to this day.
This assignment really challenged myself. I learned that as a younger child I was more happy and 'boosted' when I had quality time with people I loved and trusted. "Things" and awards were nice, but it wasn't what got you from day to day. When I was a teen, being able to express myself through being someone else was a form of release. I needed and appreciated the 'break' from the pressures I felt to achieve and excel in school
I also learned more about how I want to raise my daughter and what kind of environment I hope to provide in my house. It will be more than interesting to assign this writing task to my daughter when she's 32. ;-)
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