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OK, last week's assignment was rather thought provoking, but very difficult. I thought I would lighten things up by seeing everyone's ways to boost the one the love. :-) Please, join in and write your very own SESS and sign Mr. Linky. You may comment instead, but why not sign Mr. Linky and have us come visit your post? :)
This one is easy for me. I've been married for 12 years and have had plenty of time to get to know what boosts his self-esteem....
Many of us women think that men are hard to read and complex (pretty much how they view us) but really, they are just like us. The same things that make us happy (besides a great purse and shoe) pretty much makes them happy, too. Love, encouragement, respect, affection...I could go on and on.
I know my hubby loves it when I notice his efforts. For example, when he's been making a huge attempt to get into shape and work out 3-5 times a week his self-esteem is boosted high when I notice and say something affirming. Or when he cuts his hair, he likes it when I notice. Sound familiar? Then there are the times he spends two hours doing the lawn or the same amount of time detailing the car.
My hubby does a lot around the house. I always tell him that he'd make the perfect housewife. har har! He's a wonderful husband who constantly thinks about me, my feelings, my opinions, my concerns, etc. I try express my appreciation very frequently. Of course, there are a billion ways to show appreciation. This leads me into bragging about my hubby to others ... I try to publicly praise him when he's with me. Who doesn't love that? I mean, just thinking about him saying something wonderful about me in front of others makes me blush.
I'm the type of person who likes to just get something done. I'll only ask for help if I absolutely have to. Well, I'm getting better actually....I've realized that when I'm working on something such as arranging furniture, picking paint colors, birthday or Christmas shopping, etc that my hubby likes to be included. Just this week we were discussing how I was going run out and get Pumpkin Doodles a costume. My sweet husband said, "I know I can't go with you, but could you just give me a call when you're shopping so that I can be a part of picking her costume out?" I know, I know, I know...some of you are saying that your hubby could give a rip what costume you get your kids, but my hubby loves the details.
Well, it's not hard for me to respect my husband especially after thinking about everything he does and everything is he to me. I also need to show my respect to him on a regular basis by respecting his opinions, feelings, etc. As passionate as I am about my opinions, I need to remember that he's entitled to have passion, too. I try to show respect by hearing him out and not being quick to interrupt.
The biggest challenge of this post wasn't writing it, it is keeping it in the front of my mind daily. When his self-esteem is boosted it usually leads to mine being boosted as well. :-)
I'm re-recommending the book I mentioned last weekend: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
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